02 February 2012 ~ 0 Comments

Attention Men…. Slow Down!

I remember when I first met my husband and we went out for dinner together. We would eat soooooo slowly it was ridiculous.

We would order a bottle of wine, drink it, get silly, sit and laugh. We would take itty bitty bites of our food so delicately because we didn’t want to look like vultures in front of each other.

We were so proper and we’d sit in the restaurant for hours.

I was so super conscious of looking like a lady and he was the perfect gentleman. He would always ask for the table that he wanted, he pulled out my chair, ordered for me, and asked for the music to be changed or turned down if it was annoying. Believe it or not, he is still this way and I love him for it. It must be the French Canadian in him.

I had a discussion with a male friend of mine the other night about our eating habits. We were discussing eating versus having an experience.

He said, when he eats he likes to pick up his fork, focus on the food and eat with enthusiasm. No talking or kidding around. He just wants to eat. Even if he has company for dinner. He doesn’t want to chat and giggle, he wants to eat. After all, isn’t that what we’re supposed to do when the food is served?

I asked him if he was out on a date with someone spending $100 on a lovely meal in a nice restaurant, would he still eat fast and furious. He said yes. He would eat, get it done and over with and then tell the waitress not to remove the plate because he wouldn’t want his date to feel bad that he had finished before her.

He told me it would be excruciating for him to eat slowly.  Putting the fork down between bites, nibbling ever so gently on his steak, stretching out the meal, he would die. I was trying to get him to see that this outing with his wife or partner could be an experience not just a meal.

It is not about you and your food. It’s about sharing the experience with someone.

Here’s a Valentines Day assignment for those of you who eat on autopilot. If you plan on going out with someone for dinner this Valentines Day, try sitting at the table and talking for a little while. Get your drinks and sit for a few more minutes before ordering. Ask the lady what she would like and order for her.

When the food comes, really take in the whole experience. Notice the tablecloth, the flowers, the silverware. Notice the smile of the person across the table from you before you start inhaling the food.

Notice how the food is prepared and placed on your plate.  When you eat take small bites, chew slowly, breathe and really taste the food. Sit back in between bites and savor the moments that you are there. After all, you are paying $50- $100 or more right? Hang out for two hours. Be in joy with the other person. Enjoy yourself

I know it may be hard for some of you to get in the zen of eating.  It may feel  like you’re eating in slow motion.  I assure you, you will score brownie points with the lady sitting across from you. Unless of course she’s a real “OINK” herself. Then maybe you need to send her this article.

Whatever the case, it’s a great exercise in awareness and you may just enjoy your meal a little more.

Of course if your date is going badly…..shove the food in your mouth as quickly as possible and get the heck out of there!

Happy Valentines Day!



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