20 August 2013 ~ 0 Comments

Here’s What You Do When You’re Feeling Bad!

question-markI haven’t written a joy post in a long time. It’s probably been almost a year.  I didn’t feel all that joyful to tell you the truth.

Yes, I am still that happy person that I usually am but because of a few situations that  popped up in my life, it was a constant battle to separate the crappy events from the rest of MY LIFE.

What I’ve learned is, if you look at your life separately from the things that happen to you in your life, things are a lot easier to deal with.

For instance, my husband and I were in the middle of a nasty lawsuit. This had been going on for over a year. Yes it was horrible, yes it cost us lots of money, yes it wasn’t fair, yes we didn’t deserve it and yes he, the person who was suing us was a jerk.

It’s not something that needed to consume me at all times, it just reared it’s ugly head now and then and we had to deal with it when it did.

For a while I was letting it consume my entire life. I couldn’t write in my joy log that’s for sure, I couldn’t do anything fun, I couldn’t get my silly gene to work. I would mope, sit a lot, think the worst, feel sorry for myself, worry and just plain feel bad.

This certainly isn’t the way I like to feel or be. So, I made the decision to put those situations that I didn’t like into closets. They could only come out when I invited them to. I realized that I didn’t have to be consumed by those situations but just visit them now and then when they needed my attention.

We are all going to be given challenges along our journey but keeping calm in the middle of the storm is definitely the way to go.

I am back to my happy self. A few months ago I went to the Drag Queen Bingo in town dressed as Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz. My friend and I made ourselves ruby slippers!

The last few months I laughed and laughed with a friend of mine as we worked on writing  comedic sketch ideas for a show. I needed the things that made me smile more than ever. Why should I abandon what makes me feel good to focus on what brings me down.

For what it’s worth, try compartmentalizing your issues.  Put them away somewhere and only give them the time and energy they really need. Be joyful the rest of the time and continue to smile. Your problems are problems but they don’t have to take over the inherently joyful person that you are.

I’ve been feeling so much better. I know that I will get through all the crap and life will go on. It’s all a journey anyway. If there’s no growth, than what’s the point right?

Ahhhhh…..it’s good to be back.


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